I think one of the most important things ever and ever and ever is to be fair and kind to the children when you are teaching them. Raising them is really teaching them how to be happy, good people who follow their heart and add goodness to society in whatever way they do. Anyway, fairness…Charlie hit Diana today because he asked her three time to let him cross the street alone and because she didn’t know that at this particular corner across from the Wolin’s I would look both ways and then let Charlie go on his own up to the door, she refused his request. Not ok on Charlie’s part at all. I said to him “I understand you hit Diana.” And he told me what happened and I explained that he must know that that is not acceptable even if she was misunderstanding him or not letting him do what we’d agrees he could do. He realized he was in the wrong so I asked him what he thought his punishment should be and he said to loose half of his allowance this week so I said ok and that would be the punishment. It worked really well. I didn’t have to worry I was being unfair in some way (too tough or too lax) and he felt some control over his actions. I’d like to figure out how to make or work out like this more often.